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Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation (Every Man)
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Item description for Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation (Every Man) by J. Charles Steve Yankee Stephen Arterburn...
In this world you're surrounded by sexual images that open the door to temptation. They're everywhere - on TV, billboards, magazines, music, the Internet - and so easy to access that it sometimes feels impossible to escape their clutches. Yet God expects His children to be sexually pure.
So how can you survive the relentless battle against temptation? Here's powerful ammunition.
Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker examine the standard of Ephesians 5:3 - "there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality" - in a positive and sensitive light. And they explain how an authentic, vibrant relationship with Jesus Christ is the key to victory over temptation.
Every Young Man's Battle will show you how to train your eyes and your mind, how to clean up your thought life, and how to develop a realistic battle plan for remaining pure in today's sexually soaked culture. As a result, you'll experience hope - real hope - for living a strong, pure life God's way.
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Dimensions: Length: 7.5" Width: 5.1" Height: 0.6"
Weight: 0.2 lbs.
Binding MP3 CD
Release Date Jan 25, 2006
ISBN 1423303938
ISBN13 9781423303930
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 | Amazing guide on staying sexually pure! Dec 2, 2009 |
Imagine, sitting in the backseat of the car with the girl just met at the after-party of the Friday night football game, forgetting her name because one is too drunk to remember, and she is drunk enough to take advantage of. Going in to make a move and hesitate and think, "What's the right choice here? I've got a smoking hot babe that I can do whatever I want to, what's the harm? She won't even remember because she is too drunk to remember" Before it is known, four months later she is calling with the shocking news that she is pregnant.
Making the right choices and knowing the consequences of actions play a huge role in this book. Every Young Man's Battle is the perfect guideline for young men struggling to stay sexually pure in their walk with God.
While reading Every young mans battle one can be assured about relating to the authors when needed while reading about tools to use for people that are struggling sexually. The author more likely to relate to the reader, is Fred Stoeker. (FredStoeker.com) Stoeker started his struggle with sexual impurity in first grade when he found a stack of pornography magazines in his dad's bedroom. For twenty years after that incident, Stoeker struggled with pornography and sleeping around from bed to bed. At the age of 23 Stoeker gave his life to the Lord, regardless there was still distance between him and God. Thinking that Marriage would fix the problem of sexual impurity, Fred got married to Brenda, yet the struggle continued, putting even more distance between Stoeker and God. As he received his BA with Honors from Stanford, his marriage problems became worse along with his personal uprightness. Stoeker then spent much time researching Christian writings on troubleshooting for marriage along with human sexuality. As Stoeker began to attend Bible study on a daily basis, God began to change Stoker's heart, as well as his thinking process. Two very strong bible verses Job 31:1 and Luke 6:46 started to reel Stoeker back into Gods presence and Joy. The other co-author, Stephen Arterburn, spends little time speaking his stories in this book, however, he does help lay down many key concepts and fundamentals in the fight for sexual purity. Arterburn has written well over 60 books, he is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries, which is the nation's largest faith-based broadcast, counseling and treatment ministry (Newlife.com). Steve and Fred have both won many awards with their "Every man" series including other books such as Every Mans Battle or Every Young Woman's Battle and many more. Every Young Man's Battle won Gold medallion awards in the teen category in 2003(fredstoeker.com). As Fred tells his life story as well as examples from others, who don't have complete names in the book due to protection of their identities, one will find it very easy to relate, so rest assured.
Every Young Man's Battle is separated into seven sections generally organized in a "state the problem find the solution" form. Much of the book is written using Fred's life as an amazing example, starting from the beginning to end, while the other examples from numerous other people fill in the gaps of addressing other sexual impurity issues. The book starts off in part 1 asking where the reader stands right now in their walk spiritually. Part two will address how any sexual impurity entered the reader's life in the first place. Part three really puts the fork in the road forcing the reader to make a choice (if one is to truly follow the guideline of the book) on which path they will take. And parts four thru seven deal with every issue from masturbation all the way to homosexuality. Towards the second half of the book, how to address those problems is stated very thoroughly by Stoker and Arterburn.
In the first section, Stoeker starts telling his life story starting all the way back from high school when football was "God". At the time staying sexually pure wasn't too much of a challenge, because he viewed relationships as too much of a distraction from his ultimate goal, to become an all-state quarterback. His interest in sex was more so passive in a way. During the off-season however, Stoeker began dating around, which led to sleeping around and eventually breaking past every single barrier that God had set for him, these habits also added on the addiction of pornography. Stoeker shares this to the readers to let them know he knows where they are coming from with any addiction of premarital sex. He also states in section 1 about the revelation that he had with God, which forced him to take a look at what he had become. It was well after college at this point and his life took a huge turn for the better, he devoted to live a life of sexual purity in his walk with God. This section in the book is very important because Stoeker lays down six "basic truths",
1. Attraction to girls is natural
2. Sex is exhilarating.
3. Sex is a slippery slope.
4. God has standards of sexual behavior for his children.
5. God's love is not based upon your ability to meet his standards.
6. Rules are a part of a vibrant relationship with Christ
Another reason why section 1 is helpful is because it literally gives the reader a list of numerous bible verses that talk about sex and sexual impurity and how to steer clear of that path until marriage. A particularly good verse that was stated was Ephesians 5:3-4, "Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for Gods holy people, nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place". Every Young Man's Battle uses many examples of struggle stories from men aging from their teens to shortly after college, quite the spectrum. The reason why section one is so important is because it lays a very strong foundation for the rest of the book. As the book goes on, it drills the same concepts continuously in different phrases or scenarios.
The second section of the book labeled "How we got here" shows how Stoeker falls short of Gods standards as a new Christian. At this point in Stoekers walk, which was a couple years after his revelation, he began to notice in church on Sunday mornings that he couldn't get into the worship and that here was distance growing between him and God, the reason for this was that there was still bits and pieces of sexual immorality in his life. He recognizes that although he had become a leader of many groups at the church and was happily married to a woman that God gave him, on his own time, he still hadn't fully rejected sexual sin. Stoeker had "stopped short" of Gods standards, and unfortunately found a middle ground. The principle in this section is to teach that one should eliminate every hint of sexual sin if he is to walk in purity.
The third section of Every Young Man's Battle force the reader to ask themselves "will you aim for acceptance or authenticity?" Although this chapter is very short, it plays a key section in the book as a whole. The question, "will you aim for acceptance or authenticity?" The book defines aiming for acceptance as only acting as a Christian in front of your Christian friends, but let sin and impurity mix in with your life outside of church, so that person is only "aiming for acceptance". On the other hand is the choice of being authentic, which the book defines as not only to appear as a Christian on the outside, but to be authentic Christian in the heart as well. So when someone asks themselves, "How accepted can I be?", instead they should be asking, "How holy can I be?" This is one of the stronger foundations of this book.
Part four of Every Young Man's battle deals with the most common sexual struggle with men of many ages, masturbation, in this section of the book, Steve Arterburn's (the other co-author) story begins. Atrerburn talks about his rebel attitude elevation when he as eleven. Although he had already made his salvation with Christ, he began to compromise. This "compromising" began when he cheated on tests all the time in elementary; this eventually led to compromising all the way past college. Arterburn talks of the first time a friend showed him exactly was masturbating was in the tree house. Not knowing the delayed consequences of his actions, and thinking that no one would know, Arterburn "compromised", and began to grow an addiction to masturbation. This addiction led to an early exposure to pornography, which led to sleeping around, promiscuity, these bad habits ended up with Arterburn forcing a former girlfriend into an abortion. It is a shock how simply compromising can lead to the horrors of abortion. The lesson is very clear in this section.
Sections four through seven generally deals with solutions and addresses all the issues discussed up to this point. There are many important answers in section four particularly on staying sexually pure. One of the first steps is to develop a strategy or as the book puts it, a "battle plan". First stating that impurity is a habit and an addiction, the authors then state all kinds of strategies and ideas to keep the mind pure. Strategies like "bouncing your eyes" stating that when the eyes "bounce" towards the attractive parts of a woman, let them "bounce" away instantly. This particular strategy is rephrased and integrated into a few others, such as keeping the eyes off the female joggers or changing the channel when it comes to "beer-and-bikini" commercials on TV.
The second chapter of section five labeled "your sword and shield" speaks for itself in strategies for purity. This is a fundamental chapter in the whole of the book. It gives two bible verses for the reader to use; one of the verses serves as his shield, and the other serves as the sword. These are metaphorical of course, but if one is to follow them, it will most likely help. These verses are Job 31 and 1Corinthians 6:18-20. The end of section five states to keep striving to meet Gods standards of sexual purity, using these verses as a booster to do so.
Looking at the whole picture of the purpose of this book, section six was very interesting, but not so relevant, dealing with respecting the father and girls perspective. It discusses respecting a woman's father, and how taking that girl out on a date is like taking that fathers pride and joy away for the night. The book teaches how to respect the father in ways such as asking for their daughters hand in marriage, or making sure he is around the house while on the couch with his daughter. This section also gets a partial view from a girls standpoint of sexuality. The relevant chapter of this section is the last one, asking the reader if they are ready to fight for their sexual purity. The last section of the book, section seven, is unfortunately small and just merely taps the issue on homosexuality, suggesting many of the same solutions that were stated for heterosexual men.
Every Young Man's Battle deals with virtually every aspect of sexual struggle in the lives of men (teens and young adults) and gives questions to the readers that put them on the spot, questions like, "how holy are you going to be?", "are you ready to make the choice?", "are you going to take a stand?". It is a very down to earth book as Nicholas Bradley said as a reviewer on goodreads.com, "it gets real and becomes intense at times, but is a great book to do with others if you are looking for purity". Not only is this book helpful with purity, it will also bring the reader closer to God and heal their relationship with Jesus Christ, as Jon T., a Reviewer on [...] said, "this got my personal relationship with Christ to a new level". Although the book gets a bit sexually graphic at times, the readers should be able to relate to at least one of the sections of this book. Due to the graphic content however, it is recommended that parents read thru this book before handing it to their teenagers. It is highly recommended that young adult men need to read Every Young Man's Battle, giving its perfect guide to a walk of sexual purity, and an amazing walk with Jesus.
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| | |  | A Few Great Ideas... And some Really Bad Ones Jun 26, 2009 |
What the author has to say about guarding your eyes and not staring at women is great (helped me a lot). But I felt like when I had completed the book, that as a male I was the problem. The book spells out that men initiate sexually related problems in relationships and women are not sexually inclined (if at all minimally). Many of my male youth group kids who read this novel agreed it left them feeling confused about the opposite gender. This idea creates an unrealistic picture of female sexuality and character (sadly not all women are completely innocent). A more balanced view would be that sexual problems are caused by both people in the relationship making mistakes.
In short I wish that I had never read this book because it set me up to enter into an extremely disastrous relationship. I will never recommend this book to anyone and always discourage its usage. | | |  | Uncritical and unscientific Jul 19, 2008 |
| The authors rely on little more than personal anecdotal experience. Their personal stories take too much space and cut out room for practical advice. They rely little on what mainstream sexology has to say becuase of their unquestioned committment to the sinfulness of "even a hint" of lust after a woman--based largely on an uncritical, literal reading of Matthew 5:28. Their reasoning embodies a perfect example of slippery-slope reasoning that I will use in the future when I teach critical thinking classes: 'if it goes that far, it'll end up going quite a bit farther.' The fact that there is no index helps the case for saying that this book is more like a novel about the consequences of sexual repression on one's emotional well-being and self-control, and a documentary of the bad advice that comes from it, than a helpful guide for young men trying to understand how to handle their bodily needs. | | | | Relevant and Challenging Mar 10, 2008 |
| I really recomend this book...i have found it very relavent and challenging giving practical advice i recommend this to any guy (unmarried - otherwise get every Mans battle)to any guy struggling with lust | | |  | excellent for every dad and son Mar 9, 2008 |
| Excellent book for every dad wanting to instruct and lead his son in how to be a real man! | | | Write your own review about Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation (Every Man)
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